Before we start — a visual altar to the multi-passionate woman:
Some icons for your inner mosaic—women, real and fictional, who changed course more than once, who weren’t afraid to be unfinished:
Julie (The Worst Person in the World) – She lived through many selves: student, photographer, writer, lover, daughter. She never picked one. She just kept listening.
Anaïs (Anaïs in Love) – A woman in motion who doesn’t hide her contradictions or shrink for anyone’s comfort. She falls hard, gets distracted, talks too fast, and still manages to feel more awake than anyone in the room.
Frances Halladay (Frances Ha) – A dancer turned wanderer who fell in and out of dreams, proving that losing your footing is part of finding your way.
Esther Greenwood (The Bell Jar) – Sylvia Plath’s semi-autobiographical character who imagined her life as a fig tree, each branch a different future she wanted to live. She felt stuck—wanting everything, paralyzed by the idea of choosing just one.
Lady Bird – Fiercely tender, always shape-shifting, she refused to shrink herself to fit a single identity.
Jo March (Little Women) – Torn between art and family, solitude and love, Jo made room for all her contradictions.
Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat Pray Love) – She built a life from scratch not once but three times, answering the quiet voice inside before any outside voice made sense.
These women didn’t follow a perfect path. They made space for complexity.
This newsletter is for them—and for you.
Julie wanted to be everything.
First, she studied medicine. Then psychology. Then photography. Then she worked in a bookstore. Then she tried writing. She fell in love, fell out of love. And all along the way, she asked herself:
“Why can’t I stick to anything? Why do I always leave before I finish?”
That’s a line from the film The Worst Person in the World, and when I watched it, I cried. Because I knew Julie. I’d spoken to dozens of Julies. I’d been her, too.
She’s the woman who wants to live many lives in one.
Who follows her gut even when it doesn’t make sense.
Who starts projects and abandons them, not because she’s flaky—but because she’s learning who she is in real time.
Julie is the patron saint of the multi-passionate feminine mind.
And just like her, so many women I know feel scattered, unfinished, undefined. They’ve heard the voice that says:
“Stick to one thing.” “Pick a niche.” “Be more professional.”
They’ve tried. God, they’ve tried.
But what do you do when your entire being is not made for one-track ambition?
the pressure to have it all figured out
In one scene, Julie’s boyfriend tells her, kindly but firmly, that she can’t keep drifting. That eventually, she has to choose something. Settle into something. Become someone.
But Julie isn’t drifting—she’s searching. She’s responding to an inner world most people are too afraid to hear.
Like Esther Greenwood in The Bell Jar, who says:
“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree... and I wanted to pick all of them, but choosing one meant losing the rest.”
So many women I speak to live in that moment: stuck between the fig branches. Wanting to do it all. Afraid of choosing wrong. Feeling like they’re too late, or too behind, or too uncommitted to “make it.”
But (thanks Julie) there is no shame in changing paths.
No shame in trying things that don’t last forever. No shame in loving something deeply for a season.
What if your “inconsistency” is just evidence that you’re growing?
What if your multi-passionate nature is your greatest creative asset?
Julie shows us that clarity doesn’t come from getting it right.
It comes from living fully through the not knowing.
We live in a world that rewards linear progress and clean answers.
But real creativity isn’t clean.
It’s cyclical, messy, and full of false starts.
Julie knew this. She said:
“I feel like I’m always starting over. I never finish anything. I don’t know who I am.”
Which, i am starting to think, is not a weakness — but a feature of a woman who’s awake.
What if your “I don’t know” is actually your soul refusing to be boxed?
Everything you love—your favorite product, book, brand—started as a messy draft. Even your phone was once an idea that failed multiple times.
And yet we look at our own beginnings and call them not good enough.
Especially in the age of social media, where we only see the polished result. The 1% that made it out of someone’s drafts folder. We forget that behind every launch is a thousand invisible pivots.
why the current model doesn’t work for us
Most business advice was built by and for a different body.
It wasn’t made for people who bleed every month. Who feel everything. Who carry invisible emotional labor. Who need softness, slowness, recovery.
It wasn’t made for multi-passionate women. Or neurodivergent creatives. Or caregivers.
As Invisible Women (book by Caroline Criado-Perez) reminds us, the world is still designed around the “default male.” From temperature settings in offices to seatbelts in cars to economic models—everything assumes a certain kind of worker, thinker, builder.
And we don’t fit it.
Julie didn’t either.
She moved from one identity to the next not because she was lost, but because she was honest.
“I just want to feel something real,”
And isn’t that what we’re all craving?
so what now?
If you’ve been trying to find your niche, your offer, your clarity—and all you feel is stuck—maybe the answer isn’t in forcing something.
Maybe it’s in doing.
Try the thing. Start messy. Follow the spark. Let your hands teach you what your head can’t yet know.
Just like Julie did.
We often think we’re the only ones feeling this way—but chances are, if it’s living in your chest, it’s living in someone else’s too.
Somewhere, another woman is doubting herself, questioning her pace, wondering if her multi-passionate mind is a problem.
You are not alone. And you don’t have to do this alone.
That’s why we have community. That’s why we need each other.
We need each other more than ever. Not in performative spaces. But in real ones. With depth, nuance, presence, and permission to be exactly where we are.
So if you’re looking for a way to build in sisterhood, here there are 2 ways you do it:
1. Join my free Telegram channel — a quiet, inspiring corner for female creatives, visionary women who want to build something sacred and sustainable together. [join here]
2. Apply to join the Cosmic Branding Container — a 3-month intimate group of 8 women meeting monthly to shape their projects, offers, and identities with support, clarity, and truth. We work with creative rhythm, emotional presence, and real structure. [applications close July 7 — apply here]
Thank you so much for staying with me until the end.
If this moved something in you or made you feel a little less alone—you can help me keep writing by buying me a coffee ☕️ or subscribing to the paid version of this newsletter. Every bit helps me make this work sustainable, spacious, and full of soul.
with Love,
Chiara
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